cover image Confessions of a Slacker Mom

Confessions of a Slacker Mom

Muffy Mead-Ferro. Da Capo Press, $12.95 (152pp) ISBN 978-0-7382-0994-4

A welcome relief from the flood of how-to-mother-perfectly tomes, Mead-Ferro's short and sweet book is a reminder not to take parenthood so seriously. The author, who in addition to being the mother of two young children also has a demanding career as an advertising copywriter, has drawn valuable lessons in""making do"" from her grandmother, who""had none of the proper equipment by today's standards"" yet""never described motherhood as a hardship."" Mead-Ferro doesn't care for creating clever scrapbooks, accessorizing the nursery or trying to impart baby genius status to her three-year-old. Rather, she teaches her children that""making do"" with their imagination is as good a route to inspiring creativity as any educational toy. She believes in letting her kids learn that the physical world is a complicated place; it's better than smothering, isolating and""child-proofing"" the world for them, she says. Rejecting the mentality that results in pre-school admission anxiety attacks and overly competitive soccer leagues for six-year-olds, Mead-Ferro both soothes and inspires as she prompts parents, and mothers in particular, to trust their own instincts rather than that of the""experts."" Let the kids get messy, she says, and let them figure some things out for themselves. While Mead-Ferro's not at all sheepish about labeling this approach similar to that of a""slacker,"" readers will come away with the feeling that the author is in fact a wise veteran who has experienced many of the conflicting messages women face today, and who nevertheless comes up smiling.