cover image With or Without You: A Spiritual Journey Through Love and Divorce

With or Without You: A Spiritual Journey Through Love and Divorce

Cameron Conant. Relevant Books, $12.99 (207pp) ISBN 978-0-9763642-7-6

Conant did everything right: a devoted son and faithful Christian, he married his college sweetheart, and didn't have sex until his wedding night. Yet, at 27, he found himself divorced. This frank memoir, which Conant wrote just a year after his wife left him (and which, as the title indicates, is littered with references to U2), chronicles Conant's relationship with ""Sara"" (a pseudonym). He describes their on-again, off-again college romance; their engagement; their tumultuous marriage; Sara's decision, finally, to leave; and Conant's efforts to put his life back together. As recounted here, Sara called it quits because she believed Conant struggled with lust. There are sure to be some readers who say Conant should have written about his divorce in ten or twenty years, when he had more perspective. But the immediacy is part of what makes this memoir work. It will no doubt speak to other divorced Christians, especially Gen-Xers. A less obvious, but no less significant, audience should be pastors, whose ability to minister to separated or divorced parishioners will be enriched by walking with Conant for a while.