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Body Language 102: Try Lying!May 26, 2009 Body Language 102: Sorting the Truth and Lies Today, BHB gives a very warm welcome to an old friend who’s quizzes keep us on our toes and our brains sharp. Margie Lawson—psychotherapist, writer, and international presenter – analyzed hundreds of hours of body language in her post-master’s specialization. Margie taught psychology, communication, and group dynamics courses at the graduate level. She uses her kinesics expertise in every interaction.  Last year Margie’s BHB blog, Body Language 101 saw thousands getting in touch with what people really mean by watching their bodies. If you’ve ever had the opportunity to see the tv show Lie To Me, you will find this little quiz even more fascinating.Interpreting body language is a challenge. How can you tell when someone is lying? Experts say that people lie up to 500 times a day. They lie to protect themselves. To avoid conflict. To control someone. To impress someone. To increase interpersonal power. Over 80% of lies go undetected. How good are you at spotting lies? Post a comment for a chance to win a Lecture Packet from Margie Lawson. TRY LYING QUIZ (Copyright © 2009 by Margie Lawson. All Rights Reserved.) TRUE or FALSE? 1. People can send and receive up to 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute.  2. When deceiving, the speaker usually provides longer answers to questions. 3. If you mirror someone’s posture, they’re likely to trust you and confide in you more. 4. You can spot deception by studying someone’s eyes, more than their body. 5. People who are manipulative will use their hands to illustrate their point before they make their point. 6. Deceivers mispronounce more words than those telling the truth. 7. When people are deceptive, the pitch of their voice drops. 8. When deceiving others, people move their heads less. 9. The best way to appear truthful is to appear relaxed 10. People who are telling the truth lean toward the speaker more frequently than deceivers. 11. When people are deceiving, they blink less frequently. 12. Micro-expressions lasting less than one-fifth of a second impact an observer even if they cannot be seen by the naked eye. 13. Stress may make an innocent person display the same body language as someone who’s  guilty. 14. A skilled deceiver can control their tells. 15. People who tell the truth, complain less. 16. Deceivers purse their lips more often than people who are truthful. 17. A tissue in the nose swells when people are deceptive, making the nose itch. 18. Deceivers frequently work to convince others they are telling the truth by saying, ‘honestly,’ ‘believe me,’ and ‘to tell you the truth.’ 19. People who are telling the truth smile more often. 20. If someone frequently touches their face while speaking, it’s likely they are being deceptive. ANSWERS to the TRY LYING QUIZ 1. People can send and receive up to 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute. TRUE – No wonder people have misunderstanding, get angry, argue, and fight. They miss or misinterpret the body language that qualifies or discounts the verbal message. 2. When deceiving, the speaker usually provides longer answers to questions. FALSE -- People who are not telling the truth share shorter answers and have longer breaks between comments. 3. If you mirror someone’s posture, they’re likely to trust you and confide in you more. TRUE – If you sit or stand in a similar way as the other person, you’ll foster a stronger personal connection. If you match or cross-match movements and shifts, you’ll take that connection deeper. It’s called pacing. They rub the side of their face, you tuck your hair behind your ear. They cross legs, you cross legs and shift your hips. They sip their coffee, you sip your tea. Will the other person notice you are pacing them? If your movements are smooth and casual, they will never notice. 4. You can spot deception by studying someone’s eyes, more than their body.  FALSE – Most people who are deceiving others are aware that their eye and mouth movements reflect their thoughts and emotions. They put energy into controlling their facial movements. The rest of their body may divulge their true feelings. 5. People who are manipulative will use their hands to illustrate their point before they make their point. FALSE -- People who are telling the truth use their hands to illustrate their point as they begin speaking – before they make their point. People who are being deceptive share their point verbally, then add hand movements to reinforce what they are saying. They have to concentrate more to share the lie verbally. Once said, they can use their hands to bolster their point. 6. Deceivers mispronounce more words than those telling the truth. TRUE – They also have more vocal fillers, um, er, uh and they may have more false starts speaking, to the point of stuttering. 7. When people are deceptive, the pitch of their voice drops. FALSE – Anxiety makes the pitch of their voice higher.  8. When deceiving others, people move their heads less. TRUE – They control their head movements. 9. The best way to appear truthful is to appear relaxed. FALSE -- The best way to appear truthful is to make your body language congruent with your verbal message. People who are lying can appear relaxed. 10. People who are telling the truth lean toward the speaker more frequently than deceivers. FALSE -- It’s called the Liar’s Lean. People who are deceptive lean forward more frequently, often resting elbows on knees or a table, as if angling closer to the speaker makes them appear more genuine. 11. When people are deceiving, they blink less frequently. FALSE – Research indicates that people who are being deceptive blink had a significantly higher rate. 12. Micro-expressions lasting less than one-fifth of a second impact an observer even if they cannot be seen by the naked eye. TRUE -- The observer knows something is not right. They may not know what is giving them that vibe,  but their spidey feeling (sixth sense) tells them not to trust someone. Trust your spidey feelings! 13. Stress may make an innocent person display the same body language as someone who’s guilty. TRUE – It is critical to assess and calibrate someone’s body language in relation to other dynamics before assigning blame or guilt. 14. A skilled deceiver can control their tells. FALSE -- They may control their facial expression and gross movements, but they cannot control micro-expressions and ideomotoric shifts. 15. People who tell the truth, complain less. TRUE – Deceivers complain. They want attention and support. 16. Deceivers purse their lips more often than people who are truthful. TRUE -- They tighten their lips as if they are trying to keep the truth from slipping through their lips. 17. A tissue in the nose swells when people deceive, making it itch.  TRUE -- Dr. ALAN HIRSCH calls this the ‘Pinocchio phenomenon.’ Engorgement of the nasal tissue prompts the liar to rub his nose. 18. Deceivers frequently work to convince others they are telling the truth by saying, ‘honestly,’ ‘believe me,’ and ‘to tell you the truth.’ TRUE -- They use these words and phrases more frequently than people telling the truth. 19. People who are telling the truth smile more often. FALSE – People who are not telling the truth share significantly more smiles. 20. If someone frequently touches their face while speaking, it’s likely they are being deceptive. TRUE – Touching face, neck, hands, and arms are all self-touch cues which indicate deception. Consider self-touch cues a human polygraph. TRY LYING Quiz, Scoring Key:
 16 - 20: You are a Super Human Polygraph
13 - 15: You are two body language courses short of being a detective
9 - 12: Be wary of kids and salesmen.
8 or lower: Trust your dog's instincts. Take the dog with you everywhere.
Post a comment and you may win a Lecture Packet from Margie Lawson! I got 8 wrong, which doesn't bode well for me. I'm obviously terrible at telling when people are lying. Bottom Line: Watch what you say to me from now on because I'll REALLY be watching you! Posted by Barbara Vey on May 26, 2009 | Comments (98)
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jo Mc commented: Hi Barbara,
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Christina Cross commented: Hey Barbara! Great quiz, very fun! I got 6 wrong, but two of them I went back and forth on so I was pretty close to a good score. I religiously watch the show Lie To Me though, so I may have had an unfair advantage, lol.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Dianna Love commented: Hi Barb and Margie (waving from the ATlanta airport...)
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Joy Nash commented: Great post! I took one of Margie's online classes a few years ago. It was an eye-opener and really informed my writing.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jessi commented: As a parent and daycare provider, knowing these tells has worked wonders for me! Margie, I love the quiz, as it makes me think and helps me remember better.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jody commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Edie Ramer commented: I Bookmarked this blog! I know I'll use this information in future books. I got 10 wrong. I didn't know I was so gullible!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Mary Buckham commented: Margie ~~ What a fun post! Thank you Barbara for always having the best and brightest to share.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Debbie Kaufman commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Peg commented: Great quiz, Margie. I'm going to try using some "liar's techniques" in writing my characters! Thanks!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Shari Held commented: I got half right, so I guess I need to watch out for children and salesmen! And this after watching the first season of Lie to Me! No late night TV infomercials for me!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Kit Donner commented: For a short lesson, I learned a lot and had many of my misconceptions corrected. I can add some of these interesting characteristics to my new villains and villainesses. Thanks.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Lori Brighton commented: Hi Margie and Barbara!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! sinoo7 aka Kathy Crouch commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Marilyn Baron commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Chris Bailey commented: Barbara and Margie,
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Saralee commented: Fun and interesting, Margie! I got 13 right, but I know it's because I was lucky enough to participate in your workshop last year in Columbus, Ohio. However, I do better on paper quizzes than I do in real life. Darn those micro-expressions!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Barbara White Daille commented: Thanks for the informative post! This will make great fodder for my next Work in Progress.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Natale Stenzel commented: Intriguing post! And, cool, I get to be a detective soon<g>. I have a feeling I do worse in person than I do on paper, though. Distractions, predispositions, emotions . . . all of that would affect actual perception.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! LaTessa commented: I didn't do as bad as I thought I would. I watch Lie To Me from time to time, and I guess I picked up a little info from the show (lol).
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Lara Lee commented: I got 11 wrong. Great quiz, Margie, I could have really used this when my dd was a teen! Too late for her now, but I can use if for my characters. Thanks!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! joysann commented: Please don't lie to me; I'm soooo gullible. But now I'm worried; I use many of these mannerisms inadvertently even when I'm telling the truth. Wonder what that means. Enjoyed the interesting post. Thanks.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! mary s commented: This was great Barb--especially in my line of work--really liked the DeNiro/Stiller lie detector photo!!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Shari Anton commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Liz Lincoln commented: I got 15 right, and I credit pretty much all of that to Margie. But I don't think I'm actually that good in reality. I do know that I'll be in trouble if I ever get questioned by the police, because I'll do all these things out of nervousness and look like I'm lying.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Wal726 commented: 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute, that's one jittery son of a gun. (Oops, cliche alert) I did quite well on this quiz, but then I've taken Margie's Empowering Character's Emotions and Deep Editing courses. I've ordered, and am waiting anxiously for, Writing Body Language and Dialogue Cues Like a Psychologist. I'm sure it will juice up my novel just as the first two courses did.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Terrel commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Mario commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Cher Gorman commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jacs commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! ivanh commented: and i thought i was the only liar!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! TracyM commented: Greetings Barbara and Mar-G!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Cassie commented: Lie to Me is actually based on the life and work of Paul Ekman, who's written a number of interesting books. It won't let me post the link to his Amazon page though!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jo Anne commented: Margie, you never cease to amaze me - not only with your knowledge, but also with your willingness to share it. I missed 10, but guessed on more that I got right. I'm sure Jody will be placing a bid on the London Bridge for me while she's there. Great stuff! Thanks, ladies!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Janet commented: This is fascinating. I've found that liars are often over eager to prove they're not lying, so they pepper their speech with unneccessary phrases such as 'honestly...' 'You won't believe this but...'
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Diana Cosby commented: Great quiz, Margie!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Lynette commented: Great article Margie: I watched a tv show police asked "person of interest" to reapeat their alibi exactly several times then asked them to repeat it backwards...said it catches liars out every time because they only rehearse their story from beginning to end. Lynette
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Beverley Bateman commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! dolphinover commented: I got ten correct. I'll have to really be careful around small kids and sales persons.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Lyn Cote commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Chris Battle commented: Hi Margie and Barbara,
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Valerie Everhart commented: Wow! There were a ton of things I didn't recognize, or realize with lying. As usual you give us so much information to help us with our writing! Thanks Margie for the great quiz. Regards, Valerie Everhart
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Chiron O'Keefe commented: I love the show "Lie To Me" and found the quiz fascinating. But I have to wonder if insecurity which often leads to unwarranted guilt might lead a person to come off in a similar manner to one being deceptive. What if a person feels guilty as a matter of course? Due to family dynamics, I often felt to blame for things beyond my control. As a result anytime there was an accusation, I felt truly guilty though I was innocent. Ironic but true.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO JO MC --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: CHRISTINA C--
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Helen Scott Taylor commented: Hi Barbara and Margie,
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO DIANNA LOVE!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO JOY -
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO JESSI --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Minnette commented: This is so timely for me. I've been doing research on resources for writers on body language and emotional cues. This is going into my list. Thanks so much for sharing it, Margie and Barb. Margie, I saw your upcoming workshop on May 31st (www dot margielawson dot com). Can you tell us a little more about that?
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO EDIE --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: Jody --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO MARY!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO PEG!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO SHARI --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO KIT!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO LORI!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO KATHY C!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Ruth Dell commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Dana commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Susie commented: I missed seven. But I'm still "two body language courses short of being a detective"?!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! theah commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Peg Brantley commented: Missed Margie's class last Saturday. Someone was gonna take notes for me. Think they lied?
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Monique Wood commented: The one about the hand movements caught my attention. I tend to talk with my hands (thanks to my Italian heritage, I believe). Maybe I've been lying to myself, and others, for a long time? Interesting... Thanks for the very informative article!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! JODELLE BROHARD commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Chris Hamilton commented: Well, now you know all my secrets. I am hosed.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Linsey Lanier commented: Great post, Margie. I love your quizzes. As always, great fodder for writing.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Marion commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO MARILYN B!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO CHRIS B!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Anna Hackett commented: Hi Margie --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Lisa M commented: Well Margie, It's good I'm signed up for the Body Language Class. I need plenty of help.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO BARBARA W.D!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO NATALIE S!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO LATESSA!!!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO LARA LEE!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Mary E. Ulrich commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! rose mccauley commented:
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO JOYSANN!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO MARY S!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Jusy commented: Now I know why I avoid salespeople.
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! JudthM commented: Thanks Margie and Barb
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! JoAnn Swearingen commented: Hi Margie,
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO SHARI!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO NEWLYWED LIZ!!!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO WAL!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO TERREL!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: YO MARIO!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO CHER!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO JACS --
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO IVAN!
May 26, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO TRACY M!
May 27, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO EVERYONE!.....................
May 27, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Margie Lawson commented: HELLO EVERYONE!........
May 27, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Scott commented: Great article. The micro-expressions are very interesting... I've often wondered where "that feeling" comes from.
May 27, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Janelle Ashley commented: I find this facinating. My favortie show right now on TV is Lie to Me. I have learned so much about how to detect deception. And I love how they use quick clips of real life celebrities and politicians to show the specific manerisms of deception. I have learned so much from Margie Lawson. I think she is terrific!!
May 31, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Suzanne Pitner commented:
July 10, 2009
In response to: Body Language 102: Try Lying! Milespro2346 commented: well don't i feel smart :)-, I am 16 and didn't miss any :D I'm studying to become a psychiatrist, and planning on taking a course in criminal psychology, so i believe thats why i scored so well. :)-
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