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Body Language 101February 12, 2008 A very warm Beyond Her Book welcome to our super guest, Margie Lawson, psychologist, presenter, and writer. She is a kinesics specialist, an expert on body language. A former college professor, she taught psychology and communication courses at the post-graduate level. Margie teaches on-line courses and presents full-day master classes and workshops across the U.S. and overseas, including Auckland, New Zealand and Melbourne, Australia. Barbara -- Thank you for inviting me back to guest blog. I’m hooked on your blog -- but I wish I could see you. I want to analyze your facial expressions, your vocal cues, your posture. I bet your blog followers would love to see you react to their posts! (I bet they would and I'm sometimes glad they can't!) Let's start with a True/False quiz that I developed called Body Language 101. 1. Ninety-three percent of communication is nonverbal. T F 2. If people say the right words, it doesn’t matter how they say them. T F 3. Some people wait a few seconds before showing their nonverbal response. T F 4. Body language can only be interpreted one way. T F 5. People unconsciously mirror nonverbal behavior of others. T F 6. If the words and body language contradict each other, the listener believes the body language. T F 7. Facial expressions convey 85% of the nonverbal message. T F 8. People can cover up their emotions by keeping their face blank. T F 9. Lips carry more nonverbal messages than eyes. T F 10. When anxious, people touch their face more often. T F STOP! Did you take the quiz? Ready for the answers? 1. TRUE – It’s a monstrous percentage -- which is why people should monitor their n You can project more confident body language, and you’ll feel more confident. You’ll teach yourself to extinguish some of these anxiety flags. People will react positively to the new, confident you. Pavlov’s conditioning is a powerful reinforcing agent. Over time, you won’t have to pretend to be confident. You will be confident. 2. FALSE -- An easy one. Vocal cues carry qualifying messages that support, tweak, or discount the words. Americans are pros at sarcasm. Watch your voice inflection, rate of speech, volume, and tone. Be sure your vocal cues support your message – unless you’re telling a joke. 3. FALSE -- Nonverbal communication is continuous. It’s on-going. It never stops. 4. FALSE -- An easy answer, with complex levels of application. Cognitively, people know there are multiple interpretations. Yet, people interpret nonverbals one way at an unconscious level and act on those feelings. Let’s imagine a wife asks her husband to accompany her to visit her mother, and in the next half-second his Her nonverbals -- posture stiffening, eyes flashing, harsh vocal cues -- surprise her husband. He stares at her, his mouth open (confused) or closed tight (agitated). She turns, grabs the keys, and leaves, punctuating her anger by slamming the door. The husband stands there wondering what the heck happened. Her question, asking him to go with her, triggered a thought. He recalled the car had a vibration the last time he drove it and he wondered if the tires needed to be balanced. His split-second nonverbal responses – shifting gaze, a sigh, and his mouth tightening – reflected his body responding to his thoughts about the tires. WHOOPS! The wife thought his nonverbals communicated that he didn’t want to go with her to visit her mother. She reacted with anger. He has no idea why she got angry and left. He probably thinks she’s PMS’y. ;-))) Situations like that play out too frequently with couples, friends, coworkers. People misinterpret nuances of body language and take action. Misreading the escalating stimulus/response patterns of nonverbals, builds conflict. Pausing, realizing that body language can be interpreted in a gazillion ways, and getting clarification, can result in fewer slammed doors and more smiles. 5. TRUE – and so fun! When you’re in a restaurant, watch couples and friends who like each other. They both lean forward seemingly at the same time. One leads by a nanosecond. They may reach for their beverages and drink at the same time. They mirror posture, gestures, facial expressions, voice patterns. Their body language looks choreographed. 7. FALSE – Facial expressions are key, but vocal cues, posture, movements, spatial relationships, all contribute to the nonverbal message. Depending on the research, faces carry 30 to 50% of the nonverbal message. 8. FALSE -- Faces are never blank. Lips twitch. Nostrils flare. Eyes narrow or widen almost imperceptibly. Mouths barely open or barely tighten. Pupils dilate. Tips of tongues show when people moisten lips. To a kinesics specialist, these are all diagnostic indicators. To a writer, these are cues to write flicker-face emotions. 10. TRUE – Self-Touch behaviors increase when people are anxious. They touch their face (cheek, eyebrow, lips, nose, ear), or near their face (throat, jaw, back of neck, behind ear, hair), or hands and arms. Self-touch behaviors accelerate when anxiety is high. They are body language polygraphs. When people are in a job interview, when suspects are interrogated, when a guy proposes to his gal, self-touch behaviors significantly increase. The person who’s anxious may touch their face, throat, hand, or arm every 10 to 20 seconds, sometimes every couple of seconds, unaware of their self-touch behavior. HOW DID YOU SCORE? Did you make a 100? 90? 80? Chime in. I’ll respond throughout the day and late this evening. Check back, I’ll respond. Body language is fascinating. For those of you who are writers, you get to monitor your body language when you’re pitching to agents and editors, interacting with booksellers, introducing a speaker, being on a panel, presenting a workshop, and doing a book signing. PLUS – When you’re capturing nonverbal communication on the page, you get to explore the full range of body language, and challenge yourself to write it fresh. Look at the power you have with body language. You can use nonverbals to complicate scenes and drive plot points. :-)))
Anyone who posts a comment has a chance to win one of my LECTURE PACKETS (a $20 value). 1. Empowering Characters' Emotions -- covers full range of body language 2. Deep Editing: The EDITS System, Rhetorical Devices, and More 3. Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors If you’re a reader, not a writer, my Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors lectures apply to you too. ;-))) Barbara, Thank you again. When I meet you in November, I get to see your body language in action! Posted by Barbara Vey on February 12, 2008 | Comments (205)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Gail Barrett commented: Hi Margie! I got 90%, but then, I have taken most of your wonderful, wonderful classes:))) I loved your tire example. I wonder if there is a gender difference in the ability to read body language. Any studies on that?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jeanne Stein commented: Wow-- Margie-- You reminded me of things I sometimes forget in my writing. The body is as expressive as the face, isn't it?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Barbara Vey commented: Oops! Forgot to say that I scored an 80 and here I thought I had body language down to a science. I need to start paying more attention.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Terry Banker commented: Margie--
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 CorrinaC commented: Great post, Margie! I always find your lectures interesting and learn lots. I scored a 90. Which is funny, because I'm the worst person for conveying the wrong type of body language...
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 CorrinaC commented: Great post, Margie! I always find your lectures interesting and learn lots. I scored a 90. Which is funny, because I'm the worst person for conveying the wrong type of body language...
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Gail -- There are gender differences. You know which way it swings. Females pick up body language on a conscious level more often than males.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Cher commented: Hi Margie :-)) I got them all right except #7. So that gave me a 99. Not bad. :-))
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jeanne -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Barbara -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Terry --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Corrina --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Cher - 90% is great! Number 7 is a tough one. I bet a lot of people miss it.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jo Anne commented: Yikes, Margie - I missed 3 of them. Guess I need to pay more attention to body language. So enjoyed Saturday's Houston workshop and I'll see you again in a couple of weeks.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Nancy commented: I missed 4 of them. Don't know why I picked the wrong answers. I guess I need to review my notes from Margie's workshop. Great to see you on the blog, Margie.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Marilyn commented: I scored 80%. I especially love #4 with the husband and wife scenario. I used to work in customer service where about 95% of my contact with people was by telephone. Email contact was just beginning to come about when I left that job. We were sent through a two-day workshop to help us convey things better via telephone (for example, keep a mirror at your desk and when the phone rings look at yourself and smile before you answer. Your voice will sound better and more of communication is in the perception of what you said than what you actually said. Did that make sense?) I hope I get the chance to take one of your workshops one day.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jo Anne --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Linda Barrett commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Linda Barrett commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Kimberly, AKA Problem Child commented: I love stuff like this. I always thought I was a nerd...guess I'm not alone!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Gail Barrett commented: Margie - I'm thrilled that you are coming to the WRW spring retreat. See you then!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 CJ Lyons commented: Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Valerie Everhart commented: Wow..I can see where this would help deepen my writing. And the thing about the lips- I thought it always was the eyes that were more of a give-away. Thanks for the info!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Kim Lenox commented: Hey Margie! I absolutely LOVED the Houston EDITS workshop on Saturday. Very concrete, and VERY applicable. Thank you so much for coming. This was an excellent post -- very interesting.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Kim Lenox commented: Hey Margie! I absolutely LOVED the Houston EDITS workshop on Saturday. Very concrete, and VERY applicable. Thank you so much for coming. This was an excellent post -- very interesting.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Mary Ellen Carmody commented: Margie - I scored 90%. I have always been interested in non-verbal communication. Also, I just finished reading a Jeffrey Deaver book where the main character is an expert in that.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Mary Ellen Carmody commented: Margie - I scored 90%. I have always been interested in non-verbal communication. Also, I just finished reading a Jeffrey Deaver book where the main character is an expert in that.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Marilyn --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lisa commented: Margie I enjoyed your info on body language. It's always an interesting subject.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Marcia James commented: Great quiz! I missed your recent workshop in Columbus, OH, and heard it was great! I look forward to taking one of your online courses.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lark commented: Enjoyed meeting you last weekend. The workshop was great. As a writer body language is such a fascinating subject to me--thanks for a fun quiz.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Darlene commented: Fantastic blog, Margie. There's a lot I don't know about body language. Do you have any resources for interpreting what smiles mean? Darlene
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Kathleen Bacus commented: Hi Margie! I scored pretty well here--probably because we just finished going over non-verbal communication and body language in a communications class I'm taking. Great post!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Vicky Dreiling commented: Margie, this was so helpful, I printed it out. I especially loved your example in #4; I chuckled over that one. Your workshop in Houston was fantastic!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Veronica Alderson commented: WOW! This is a great quiz! Scored 100% I guessed on 4. Had to think about it and made a logical guess! I loved the scene! I have jumped the gun with a similar situation before! I could relate! LOL
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Rhonda S. commented: Wow, that was amazing. I learned some new things!!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jean Wise commented: well I scored a dismal 80% and thought I knew better. You are so right on needing to always be mindful of non verbals. I am also a reporter for the local paper for feature articles and cover some board meetings. This has given me an opportunity to observe public officials non verbals and man do they need an update also. People watching is fun!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jean Wise commented: well I scored a dismal 80% and thought I knew better. You are so right on needing to always be mindful of non verbals. I am also a reporter for the local paper for feature articles and cover some board meetings. This has given me an opportunity to observe public officials non verbals and man do they need an update also. People watching is fun!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Edie Ramer commented: Margie, great quiz! I laughed all the way through number 5. You nailed the interaction between me and my husband.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Debbie G commented: I loved the quiz, esp. the husband and wife example. So how does one go about getting better at reading other peoples body language?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Mark David Gerson commented: I scored 80. Maybe it's time to start going out in public with a paper bag over my head...<br><br>
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Katherine Ivy commented: What a great little chunk of information. I didn't do too well on the quiz, but I definitely learned a lot. I've heard your name buzzing around all of the writing loops I'm on, Margie, and now I see why! I am so off to rewrite my first meet scene between the H/h, thanks for the inspiration!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Sarah Schroder commented: I so enjoyed your workshop this weekend! My mind is still whirling!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Terri Thayer commented: I scored 90% because I've taken Margie's classes. I think #7 was a ringer question, just to ruin my perfect score!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jess commented: This is fascinating. My husband keeps his hands on or around his face constantly--so this mean he's anxious? Chronically anxious? Do I need to get him some help? :) We'll be watching TV and I'll look over and he's got both hands on his face. I'm going to read this post again. Now I'm worried.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jess commented: This is fascinating. My husband keeps his hands on or around his face constantly--so this mean he's anxious? Chronically anxious? Do I need to get him some help? :) We'll be watching TV and I'll look over and he's got both hands on his face. I'm going to read this post again. Now I'm worried.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Carol commented: Great post, Margie. I also missed # 7, so that gives me a 90. I see where Body Language is important in writing. Thanks, interesting reading.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie's Captain TOM commented: Terry,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Stacey Joy Netzel commented: Margie--I got a 90, got #9 wrong. I hope to take your workshop Empowering Character Emotions this fall and am really looking forward to it! Sounds like it'll be great.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Melissa Ohnoutka commented: Wow! Great quiz! It was wonderful to meet you Saturday. My head is still spinning with all the wonderful information from your workshop. I can't wait to use your editing techniques. Thanks!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margaret commented: You mention interviewing a suspect. What are your thughts on torture, waterboading. What's the liklihood of interrogators getting honest information? Have you ever trained FBI or CSI agents?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Juls commented: Hi Margie:
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Amie Stuart commented: <br>Hey Margie!!!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jeff Shelby commented: 80. That's like a B-, right?:)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 DeborahBrent commented: I learned some new facts about body language. Thank you.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Chris commented: Fascinating reading! Definitely a great way to add dimension to one's writing.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margaret Daley commented: This was wonderful information. Thanks, Maggie. As a writer this will help me.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 T, Delaney commented: Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 SFLynda commented: Wow! I only got 70% right and there I was thinking I'd ace the test :D Clearly I need to take the class or win or buy the Lecture Packet, LOL
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Cara Putman commented: Hey Margie! Great topic. It's so important to get beyond one or two easy expressions in our writing. Thanks for the reminder and information on how important non-verbals are. I keep telling my husband that LOL
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 NE Jeanne commented: So how long has it been since anyone willingly played cards with you?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Merilee Larson commented: Hi Margie. It's been a few months since I took your ECE course in Nanaimo, so that must be why I got 90% :) Looking forward to your online Deep Editing in May. Thanks, Merilee.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Sally Jane Driscoll commented: Hey, Margie! What good timing! Just yesterday, to jog my memory, I reprinted the posts from two of your courses I took on line, EDITS and Empowering Emotions. My notes on your self-defeating behaviors course are frayed and they need to be reprinted, too. I wanted to attend your lecture at the NOLA conference in Shreveport, but it's not possible. Thanks for all you do and I'm delighted to see you blogging here.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Pammer commented: I only missed one. This is so interesting. I hope I can remember to watch my own body language and remember to put it in my writing as well.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jacs commented: What an interesting blog! Thanks Barbara for having Margie here today. I got 90% on the quiz...like a few of the others I missed out on question #7 :)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jacs commented: What an interesting blog! Thanks Barbara for having Margie here today. I got 90% on the quiz...like a few of the others I missed out on question #7 :)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 DonnaM commented: Super information, Margie. What great insights for authors. I'm taping your blog on the wall next to my monitor. Do you have any books you might recommend for me to learn more about body language?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Sonja Goedde commented: I scored 90%. I could have sworn eyes revealed more than the mouth. Thought that's why card players wore sun glasses. Interesting. So when are you going to publish your body language book? In the meantime, can you recommend any good ones. The few I bought weren't very good :(. And I need to add more variety of b.language to my characters. <waving hi from SVRWA in sunny CA>
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Sonja Goedde commented: I scored 90%. I could have sworn eyes revealed more than the mouth. Thought that's why card players wore sun glasses. Interesting. So when are you going to publish your body language book? In the meantime, can you recommend any good ones. The few I bought weren't very good :(. And I need to add more variety of b.language to my characters. <waving hi from SVRWA in sunny CA>
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jeanne Barrack commented: Well, I'm proud! I only got one wrong. Excellent information and as a writer, I'm happy to see I learned my lessons well!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Rita D. commented: Thanks for great information! Scored 80%. Thanks for reminding this writer that the face only contributes up to 50% and that nonverbals never stop.Need to run out to a coffee shop and people watch. Bye.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Dana commented:
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Patti Rowell commented: Hello, and thanks to both Barbara and Margie for this interesting information. I am looking forward to meeting you and being in your workshop, Margie, at the Written In The Stars conference in Shreveport at the end of this month. Patti Rowell, writing as Patricia Frances Rowell
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Julie commented: This is fascinating information. Thanks Margie! I'll certainly be more careful of my characters' actions/reactions in my books!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 joysannoh commented: Lousy score. I’m certain I semaphore anxiety to everyone, and that’s often misinterpreted. Thanks, Margie, for the info. And fabulous blog today, Barbara.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Hollly Wolfe commented: Hi Margie;
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Vivian commented: I studied most of this way back when in college and then taught it in my speech and drama classes. Ish, still didn't get a 100%, but almost.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Elysabeth Eldering commented: I had taken public speaking in college recently and then a followup course (but it wasn't dealing with public speaking directly and I can't remember the course name) and I had a blast learning all the tells - by the time I finished the public speaking course I felt pretty confident about speaking in public but then again, I'm an outgoing person and like to talk - lol -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 KELLY SCHAUB commented: Pleased I got 100%! I tell everyone about your classes, Margie, and tout you on my editing website. You've helped me be a better writer and as a result of using some of your deep editing techniques I've become published. Learning more body language cues would be a huge help--something beyond "He nodded" "he shrugged" and "her face grew warm" LOL. I love your example of the misunderstanding via reading body language incorrectly.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Giovanna Lee commented: Hello Barbara and Margie 70% - Timely reminder. Margie I have taken your on line classes over the years and learned heaps. I'm so looking forward to meeting you at our August New Zealand conference.Giovanna Lee
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 vegasbaby commented: 90%(Not bad) :) This was very interesting and alot of good info. Thanks Margie and Barbara.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Darcy Crowder commented: Hi Margie
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lisa commented: I got 90%. Missed the one about a blank face. I know my face reads like a book, but I thought other people could control their facial expressions. :o)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lisa commented: I got 90%. Missed the one about a blank face. I know my face reads like a book, but I thought other people could control their facial expressions. :o)
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Valerie K commented: Very interesting...I will have to think about taking ECE! Just finished DSDB and am going through the information lecture by lecture with my coach to get those good habits into place. Thank you for all your sound information! Hope to run into you sometime in the real world.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Hilary C commented: Loved your detailed scenario in #4, fascinating, and very useful. Thanks for sharing your experience.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Amy Shojai commented: Very kewl column--I think a lot about nonverbal cat and dog communication, but who knew all that stuff with the humans?! Thanks Margie!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jaxine Daniels commented: Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Beverley Bateman commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Linda Barrett --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Kimberly --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: CJ -- Some guys read body language well. Others don't speak the language. Maybe cave men were more about who carried the biggest club. Man to man, strength won. Women needed to find other tools. Tools they could use to outsmart the men. :-)))
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Valerie --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Kim Lenox!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Mary Ellen --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Lisa - I'm glad you enjoyed reading about body language.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Lisa - I'm glad you enjoyed reading about body language.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Marcia James --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Lark -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Darlene -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Kathleen Bacus --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Vicky D --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello to PERFECT SCORE Veronica!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Amanda commented: I'm a reader, but I love your blog Barbara. This was such a cool quiz. I scored a 90 and like most, missed question 7. Looks like I'm in good company.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Rhonda --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jean W --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Judy Sabel Soifer commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Edie --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Carol commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Ginger Duran commented: I am SOO happy to have found this blog today. It's always so nice to learn from Margie! I've taken her classes-she's the BEST!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Debbie G ASKED: So how does one go about getting better at reading other peoples body language?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Mark --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lisa Tapp commented: Hi Margie and Barbara. Your body language survey is a great tool to keep on hand. As a writer, it will remind me to use nonverbal "tells," especially in characters trying to avoid detection. Thanks.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Katherine Ivy -
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Terri --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jess --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Carol -- Glad you enjoyed the blog!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Stacey --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Melissa --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Anne commented: Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Margaret --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hey Juls -- Thanks for dropping by! Glad you enjoyed the blog. ;-)))
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Amie -- Thanks. Glad you enjoyed my on-line courses. I'm looking forward to meeting you too! See you in Fort Worth in May. ;-))
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Dianne Gerber commented: I learn a lot from this quiz. Scored 90%. The lips threw me. I've already signed up for your empowering emotions course in March and I'm really looking forward to it. Are you schedule to speak in the NE anytime this year? I'd love to meet you.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO EVERYONE!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jeff --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Deborah B --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jody Allen commented: I got a 90%, very interesting. I used work with a young teenager who was blind. She had lot of difficulty fitting in with her peers because of her behavior: she was loud when she talked, interrupted other talkers and invaded peoples space. It used to try the other kids crazy until we explained to them that with her being blind she wasn't getting any of the visual clue of body language that they did that governed, even subconsciously, their interactions with each other. She was loud because she didn't see the nonverbal reaction from others which we all learn to read to fit in. I'll have to see how the characters in my current read reacts to nonverbal clues. Very interesting.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Chris --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Margaret D --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: T. Delaney --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: SF Lynda --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Evelyn Wolgin commented: Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margay commented: This has got to be one of the most fascinating aspects of humanity - especially considering that it's almost impossible to control it. Even in trying to control our body language, don't we then reveal something of ourselves?
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Lynn commented: Margie, I scored a 90. The lip one got me. In my job body language is THE most important cue to how people are really feeling, especially political people that say one thing but mean another...
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Karen K commented: Fascinating stuff, Margie. Reminds me so much of that old song that says "Your lips say no but your eyes say yes." LOL.You've made it so much fun to pick up on all the little nuances people give away without even realizing it. Thanks for another outstanding guest blog.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 gin commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 gin commented: Hi Margie,
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Jeanne (The Duchesse) commented: Hi Margie! *Waving Wildy* Dropping in from the Bandit Lair to say hi and take the quiz. I scored a 90% because I'd heard an FBI speaker say the eyes "spoke" more than the lips. Drat! Great quiz. You don't have to put me in the drawing - but anyone else, you'll LOVE Margie's workshop workbooks. They ROCK! And can't wait to see you in April at WRW!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 HelenSS commented: I loved this. Very informative. I find it difficult to convey the body language in writing and would love any resources for that. I wonder whether there are cultural differences in body language and where I could learn about this. Thank you.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Teresa D'Amario commented: Hi Margie, you probably don't remember me. You and I chatted more than a year ago when I bought your wonderful packet! I dont' remember seeing the nonverbals yet though! I hope i"m not too late!
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Cara --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello NE Jeanne --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Merrilee!
February 12, 2008
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February 12, 2008
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February 12, 2008
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February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Everyone!-------TWO WINNERS!-------
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Marilyn commented: I'm up late working on a deadline and kept checking to see if just maybe my name was picked. No such luck, but congrats to the winners! And thanks, Margie, for all the great info.
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Sonja --
February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Jeanne B --
February 12, 2008
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February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Holly W -- KUDOS TO YOU on your PERFECT SCORE!
February 12, 2008
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February 12, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Everyone!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 babs commented: Wow! I should have known this. I never give my husband time to respond and nearly always jump to conclusions what he's thinking. Because he's got ADD, tho, he could really be thinking any one of a NUMBER of things. HAHA. bmountjoy@alltel.net
February 13, 2008
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February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO KELLY SCHAUB!
February 13, 2008
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February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO VEGASBABY!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hey Darcy!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Lisa --
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO VALERIE -- A DEFEAT SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIORS GRADUATE! You'd love ECE -- and I'm teaching it on-line in March.
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hilary -
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Amy -- Our cat and dog nonverbal communication specialist. YOU WERE ONE OF OUR WINNERS! I look forward to hearing from you. ;-))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Jax -- LIPS are amazing indicators! Great to see you again. :-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Beverley - HELLO! Wow---You got the hard questions right and missed only one. Good for you! Glad you liked the quiz. Thanks for chiming in!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Amanda -- Always great to hear from a reader. Glad you enjoyed the quiz!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Judy SS -- Regarding leg crossing and friends -- It's more likely that friends would mimic each other's posture, including crossed legs. Great to see you here!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Carol -- YAY! I'll get to meet you when I present in Detroit in May. I'm presenting Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors in Detroit. If you're interested in learning how to write the full range of nonverbal communication, that material is in Empowering Characters' Emotions----which I'm teaching on-line in March and is always available as a Lecture Packet. Please e-mail me if you have any questions: margie@margielawson.com.
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO GINGER D! Always great to see you. Thanks for your kind words. ;-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO LISA TAPP!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hey Anne! I know you! I had the best time with all of the Silicon Valley RWA members. I loved meeting you all when I presented there last year. Too fun!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello to Dianne Gerber!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO Jody Allen - I don't beleive we've met on-line before. Thank you for chiming in. GREAT STORY about the blind teen. So true. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU'D LIKE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION.
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello Evelyn Wolgin -- I don't think I've seen you in any of my on-line courses either. What I just told JODY, in the comment above, applies here too. :-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Margay -- LOVED YOUR COMMENT! HERE IT IS. I'LL RESPOND BELOW:
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO LYNN FROM YELLOW ROSE RWA! YAY! I get to meet you in May!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello to my friend KAREN K! Thanks for dropping by! You're good at writing nuanced body language. :-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Gin -- Thank you! I enjoy sharing blogs that teach reader's something fun. ;-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HUGS TO JEANNE A(The Duchesse) --
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Helen SS- You asked the right person the right questions! You've probably read a few of my responses to others -- and you may already know that I teach writers how to write the full range of nonverbal communication. My EMPOWERING CHARACTERS' EMOTIONS material----in the on-line course I teach in MARCH as well as in my LECTURE PACKETS-----is loaded with graduate level content and examples. Over 250 pages of lectures. Regarding your question about CULTURAL DIFFERENCES IN BODY LANGUAGE -- there is little in print. I'm aware of one good book -- and I can't recall the author's name. If you e-mail me, I'll look it up in my lectures and share author and title. margie@margielawson.com
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO --- Teresa D'Amario --
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello BABS!
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Judy Sabel Soifer commented: Margie,
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Marilyn----Too bad your name wasn't drawn. YET -- YOU HAVE MORE CHANCES TO WIN! Read my next post. ;-)))
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: HELLO EVERYONE-----
February 13, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Carolyn commented: Loved your Powering Character Emotions class and appearance in Dallas.
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 John D. commented: I'm one of Barb's brothers, and I scored at 80%. Is that good or bad?
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 John D. commented: I'm one of Barb's brothers, and I scored at 80%. Is that good or bad?
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Barbara Vey commented: OMG, one of my 4 brothers posted a comment. I'm printing it and putting it in my BHB scrapbook. Thanks John, I'm thrilled you're reading something nonsport related. :)<br><br> I'd love to have Margie evaluate your body language.
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Ann roth commented: This is great stuff!
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Carolyn --
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Margie Lawson commented: Hello John D, one of Barbara's brothers -
February 15, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Barbara Vey commented: Margie, thanks again for coming back and answering all the comments. It's always fascinating to have you here and there is always lively discussion. Can't wait to hear what your next topic will be.
February 21, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 Delia Latham commented: What an interesting post! I scored a 90, though I don't know how I knew those things. :)
March 14, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 LDawley commented: I scored 90 but have a question about the one I missed #6 what if someone reads the body language correctly but wants to believe the words instead?K
August 30, 2008
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August 30, 2008
In response to: Body Language 101 hehe commented: hehe hehe
June 13, 2009
In response to: Body Language 101 JaneRadriges commented: I really like your post. Does it copyright protected?
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gaze shifts away and back, he sighs, and his mouth tightens. The wife reads his nonverbals, assumes her husband doesn’t want to go, and reacts before he can say anything. She says, “Forget it. I’ll go without you.” Her tone is sharp enough to cut a diamond (vocal cue and hyperbole). 
9. TRUE – The lips do more. Watch people’s mouths. You’ll have more insight into their reactions.
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