cover image The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less

The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less

Theresa Foy DiGeronimo, Scott Haltzman. John Wiley & Sons, $22.95 (214pp) ISBN 978-0-7879-9612-3

Haltzman's promise of stress-free marital bliss is attractive, but his advice grates, recalling the worst sort of paternalistic misogyny. After explaining that men's worst communication habits are the result of genetics, Haltzman goes on to say that men need to be nurtured, require acknowledgement for their efforts and only get married for sex. So much for wives ""doing less""! Once readers recover from their shock, they'll begin to notice that whether Haltzman is focusing on arguing efficiently, spicing up your sex life or learning to recognize nonverbal expressions of love and remorse, the lesson is the same: a wife should always love and accept her husband for who he is and always has been, even after the initial throes of romantic love fade away. That core is sound, but it's hard to say who Haltzman treats less kindly on the way there: men, who are described as intractably difficult, or women, who are told to put up with them anyway.