cover image Stay Close: A Mother's Story of Her Son's Addiction

Stay Close: A Mother's Story of Her Son's Addiction

Libby Cataldi, . . St. Martin's, $24.95 (304pp) ISBN 978-0-312-53878-1

For every drug addict there are at least four people affected, a depressing assertion by some experts that is clearly borne out in this soft-spoken, utterly honest account by educator Cataldi. The mother of two sons, Jeff and Jeremy, Cataldi became head of the Calverton School in Maryland in 1987, where the boys attended; she recounts chronologically how her oldest, Jeff, a bright, capable student, embarked from adolescence onward into an ever deepening and perilous spiral of drug abuse. From getting caught smoking at school in fifth grade, attending drug-sodden raves in high school, being arrested for possession of cocaine and ketamine, and selling drugs on campus, Jeff was continually rescued by his take-charge but admittedly naïve mother, now divorced from their father. Entering Boston University seemed to give Jeff a fresh start, yet he was soon enmeshed in the party scene; in debilitating health, he dropped out and bounced around among halfway houses and rehab centers. Jeff had become a master manipulator to get his fix, even when later jailed for heroin possession, and Cataldi learned to stop enabling her “chameleon son” by joining Al-Anon. Taking an Italian expression to heart, stagli vicino , she learned to stay close and let Jeff find his way, and while her love proved steadfast, a safe outcome was never assured. (May)