The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Author . Little, Brown $25.99 (248p) ISBN 978-0-316-01311-6

Young-Eisendrath, a Vermont-based Jungian analyst, practicing Buddhist and author (Women and Desire ), identifies a “threatening and perplexing problem” she calls the self-esteem trap. Today's children and young adults are suffering from a number of symptoms, including obsessive self-focus, restless dissatisfaction, pressures to be exceptional, unreadiness to accept responsibilities and feelings of either superiority or inferiority. According to the author, instead of contentment and positive self-regard, kids raised to believe they are extraordinary or “special” are more likely to be unhappy and disappointed. Being “ordinary” and realizing one's connection to the human community is the real key to happiness, she argues, and cultivating the qualities of generosity, discipline, patience, diligence, concentration and wisdom will lead to children who are self-confident and content. She also warns against parents who “run interference,” protecting their children from inevitable disappointments. Instead, letting kids develop autonomy and experience the consequences of their decisions, she claims, is the way to go. At times, Young-Eisendrath's scope seems unwieldy, but her message rings true. (Sept.)

Reviewed on: 08/04/2008
Release date: 09/01/2008
Genre: Nonfiction
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