cover image Opting In: Having a Child Without Losing Yourself

Opting In: Having a Child Without Losing Yourself

Amy Richards, . . Farrar, Straus & Giroux, $15 (316pp) ISBN 978-0-374-22672-5

In this spirited response to the controversial 2004 New York Times Magazine 's cover story “The Opt-Out Revolution” claiming that America's most educated women are choosing motherhood over careers, feminist activist Richards (coauthor, Grassroots ) reminds readers of the real strides the women's movement has made in allowing women to choose and juggle both. The initial uneasiness in reconciling motherhood with feminism (e.g., dependence vs. independence) has largely been eclipsed, notes Richards, despite the misleading headlines. From diaper-changing stations in both men's and women's restrooms to the Family and Medical Leave Act, flextime and on-site childcare in the workplace, “feminism's investment in parenting is undeniable,” she writes. Her work incorporates her own experience raising two sons with her unmarried partner while maintaining an important identity in women's causes such as cofounder of the Third Wave Foundation and Soapbox. Scrolling through solid feminist history, she cogently examines issues involving mothers such as “to work or not to work”; the mania over one's “biological clock”; nonsexist child-rearing; balancing household work; and nurturing friendships with women and one's own mother. Overall, Richards strongly urges women to educate themselves about the achievements of the first waves of feminists and to advocate actively in their community for self-worth and dignity for all. (May)