cover image The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

M. Gary Neuman, Author . Wiley $24.95 (219p) ISBN 978-0-470-11463-6

Neuman (Emotional Infidelity ) attempts to arm wives with the tools to prevent their husbands from cheating by drawing upon questionnaires and interviews with 100 men who reported sexual affairs. According to the author's research, sexual dissatisfaction within their marriages rated fourth and emotional dissatisfaction first as reasons given for straying. Neuman notes that only “12% of cheating men said that the mistress was more physically attractive than their wives,” thereby reinforcing findings that men were missing an emotional connection in their marriages (whether this is intended to serve as comfort to their wives is unclear). Neuman introduces “The Innervoice Recognition Formula” and “Quick Action Program,” challenging women to revise assumptions about marriage, make immediate behavioral changes and forge new bonds with their husbands, thereby deterring future dalliances. While some wives might find this book helpful, it is perhaps more likely that readers will wish that the author had devoted more time to holding the cheating husband responsible for his actions rather than putting the onus on wives to take preventive—and dubiously effective—measures. (Sept.)