HOW TO SAY IT FOR COUPLES: Communicating with Tenderness, Openness and Honesty

Psychologist and family therapist Coleman (How to Say It to Your Kids) imparts practical wisdom on a most elusive pursuit: finding the right words. He suggests both general approaches and specific words and phrases concerning numerous potential conflicts, from child-rearing, commitment issues and "How to Playfully and Lovingly Turn Down Sex" to disparate intensities in career ambitions and difficult in-laws. With a glass-half-full approach (e.g., shy people marry later than outgoing people, which increases the chance of successful marriage) designed to help people accept their partners as they are and learn to compromise, this clear, well-organized, reassuring book will benefit many couples. (Jan.)