Homo Domesticus: Notes from a Same-Sex Marriage

For those whose familiarity with gay culture doesn't extend beyond stereotypes and caricatures, prepare for a shock: this sweet, funny, true tale of same-sex romance is probably too tame even for a Lifetime TV movie; as Valdes Greenwood writes, ""it occurs to me that I may have ... let myself down by missing out on the hedonistic youth that everyone will assume I had anyway."" A knowing, humble and generous narrator, Valdes Greenwood keeps his story of meeting and falling in love with his future husband-a ""romantic life that has been as uncomplicated and physically virtuous as that of a Promise Keeper""-surprisingly fresh, even as he demonstrates that same-sex couples just want the same things everybody else does: ""When Jason and I had moved in together in 1994, we had made three folders that corresponded with our future plans: wedding, house-buying, and adoption, in that order."" Valdes Greenwood doesn't get preachy or overtly political about gay rights and marriage; rather, he lets his life with husband and baby-ups, downs, and all-speak for itself. It's a convincing, heartwarming argument.