Boyfriend 101: A Gay Guy's Guide to Dating, Romance, and Finding True Love

Jim Sullivan, Author Villard Books $13.95 (288p) ISBN 978-0-8129-9219-9
Professional counselor Sullivan supplements his breezy advice with anecdotes from his clients to coach gay readers looking for Mr. Right. As the""101"" title implies, this is a beginner's guide with Sullivan starting at the ground level (""What is a date?""). His baby-steps approach covers potential opening lines for small talk with strangers; a three-page list of qualities to help narrow the focus of what your Mr. Right needs to possess; and locations for running into eligible men. Sullivan's banal scripted""one-minute encounters"" should encourage even the most tongue-tied that it doesn't take clever observations to open a conversation. Some of Sullivan's advice seems so rudimentary that it seems designed for shut-ins rather than someone new to gay dating. One of the things not to say on a first date is""My father was a drunk,"" while Sullivan says men like to hear""Your butt is awesome,""""I'm so proud of you"" and""You make fabulous coffee."" Sullivan's advice is more constructive when dealing with relationships: dating someone with a different HIV status; integrating your""inner teenager""; working through internalized homophobia; and suggested communication strategies for couples. The book ends with a useful resource guide that lists online matchmaking services, gay organization links and reference directories.
Reviewed on: 05/12/2003
Release date: 05/01/2003
Genre: Nonfiction
Peanut Press/Palm Reader - 170 pages - 978-0-679-64743-0
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