cover image How to Date Men When You Hate Men

How to Date Men When You Hate Men

Blythe Roberson. Flatiron, $19.99 (224p) ISBN 978-1-250-19342-1

Roberson, a researcher at the Late Show with Stephen Colbert, looks through a millennial lens at modern love in this laugh-out-loud commentary on dating and her lack of success at it. Peppering her narrative with references to sociological studies and quotes from literature (on unrequited love, for instance, she looks to Walt Whitman: “I loved a person ardently, and my love was not/returned”), Roberson emphasizes her main point that dating is equally painstaking endeavor and joyful venture. She lays it all out on the table—including a list of men who she believed to be flirting with her, but later found out, in one example with a guy who liked all her tweets, that he was “just on my phone a lot” checking Twitter. Mixed in with the amusing anecdotes are thoughtful observations on the classic pitfalls of dating—like the fallacy of the “you deserve better than me” breakup line or the misogynistic connotations behind being told that love will come “when you least expect it.” This is a perfect book for women of all ages who have found that, despite their best efforts, dating men rarely works out in their favor. (Jan.)