cover image Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy

Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy

Ken Page. Shambhala, $14.95 trade paper (272p) ISBN 978-1-61180-122-4

In this optimistic guide to finding love, noted psychotherapist Page rejects the dating mantras commonly found in magazines and dating guides—how to come across as more confident, how to look better, how to get more dates—in favor of a more grounded approach to finding intimacy. He aims to help readers discover their own “Core Gifts” and start relationships with others who value those qualities. Page suggests that such help is necessary because people so often conceal their most valuable traits in order to preempt criticism and rejection. He goes on to offer suggestions about how people can find their ideal romantic partner, which range from tapping into one’s pool of connections to acting with bravery and honesty in everyday situations. Readers will find Page’s advice somewhat self-evident, but that’s in many ways the beauty of it—intimacy can’t be achieved through any magic pill, but rather through plenty of introspection, hard work, and openness. What readers will gain most from this self-help manual is Page’s sincere belief in love and his conviction that loving partnership really can be achieved. Agent: Myrsini Stephanides, Carol Mann Agency. (Dec.)