Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate

Tatkin, the author of Wired for Love, explores similar territory with this work, using neuroscience and attachment theory to understand dating couples. He categorizes readers into one of three attachment types: islands, whose predominant emotion is “I can do it myself”; waves, whose clingy nature makes them more psychologically dependent on others; and anchors, said to be the most balanced, stable lovers. He then counsels readers on how to identify and interact with each of these personality groups while exploring how childhood influences shape one’s psyche. Useful exercises, such as how to use mindful breath to calm oneself, how to soothe a partner, and even how to break up constructively, are sprinkled throughout. (Jan.)