Forget Prayers, Bring Cake: A Single Woman’s Guide to Grieving

Gerson debuts with an illuminating memoir-cum-guide to dealing with grief as a single woman. Gerson grounds her advice in her experience of dealing with the death of her father, who suffered from a fatal brain disease, while moving and renovating a house on the other side of the country: “It is you, first and foremost, who gets to be your partner through your grief, and for the rest of your life.” To assuage suffering, she recommends creating a routine, connecting with one’s spirituality (included are prayer routines for multiple religions), and setting boundaries on what one’s “physical, mental, and emotional capacity will be used and for what purpose.” Gerson’s affirming message nudges readers toward identifying what they need for themselves, no matter how much it differs from the advice they may be given: “Whatever it is you need to mourn, you have my permission.” Gerson’s willingness to explore the depth and breadth of personal loss will help those grieving know they are not alone. (Sept.)