Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons: How to Find Your Soul Mate
Neil Clark Warren. Center Street, $22.95 (256pp) ISBN 978-0-446-57685-7
If you're looking for your soul mate, you've probably heard of eHarmony.com, the online dating service founded by psychotherapist Warren and which he claims has resulted in 2,000 marriages. Here he shares the eHarmony.com formula, which consists of 29 personal dimensions that Warren says determine whether two people are compatible; they range from the obvious, like intellect, sense of humor and character, to more nuanced qualities like one's sense of curiosity and level of artistic passion. Warren evaluates how important each dimension is (e.g., ""Most people with strong artistic bents simply must be paired with partners who have similar interests"") and how they can affect a relationship. Warren offers real-life stories to show how these dimensions play out in relationships, describing, for instance, the tensions created by mismatched energy levels, when one partner is full of get-up-and-go and the other is a couch potato. Warren's dimensions of compatibility will ring true to those seeking not just a hot romance but a stable, long-term relationship.
Reviewed on: 01/01/2005