Grieving & Surviving Loss

For Love of AnimalsIn the wake of September 11, animals were at first unsung victims and helpers. As the devastation sank in and the human cost mounted, it soon became clear that orphaned animals and birds left behind in locked apartments and co-ops were in dire need of care. Luckier pets were warm presences with which surviving owners could share their sorrow. Emphasizing that kind of love, Broadway Books editor Ann Campbell had earlier published Kindred Spirits: How the Remarkable Bond Between Humans and Animals Can Change the Way We Live (Feb., $23.95) by veterinarian Allen M. Schoen. "It's all about the relationships that humans have with animals," Campbell says. "Scientific research has now shown that from both physical and psychological standpoints, animals can help us. They can raise a person's spirits, boost immune systems, reduce blood pressure. I've read that puppy sales have skyrocketed since September 11." In fact, Campbell bought her first puppy last spring, a pug named Merlin, who turned out to be a spirits-raising magician. "On September 11, when the city was in shock, my sister and I fled up to Scarsdale," says Campbell. "We ran to the subway with my dog and got on. There were only four or five people in the car, everyone sitting in stony silence. Merlin did his snuffling and made noises, and everyone there started smiling and even laughing. It was amazing to watch."
Also of note are The Healing Power of Pets: Harnessing the Amazing Ability of Pets to Make and Keep People Healthy (Hyperion, Feb. 2001, $22.95) and, for those whose pet has died, Good-Bye My Friend: Pet Cemeteries, Memorials and Other Ways to Remember--A Lasting Guide for Anyone Who Has Ever Lost a Pet (BowTie Press, 2000, $26.95) by Michele Lanci-Altomare.

Grief Therapy (1995, $4.95 paper) by Karen Katafiasz, illus. by R.W. Alley, presents page after page of comforting thoughts.

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies
(1991, $14.95 paper) by Therese A. Rando. The bereavement specialist's advice is accompanied by a resource listing and a chapter on finding professional help and support groups.

A Sorrow's Company: Writers on Loss and Grief
(Feb. 2002, $14 paper), edited by DeWitt Henry, assembles contemporary essays by Jamaica Kincaid, Margot Livesy, Andre Dubus and others.
Living When a Loved One Has Died
(1987; $10 paper; $18 cloth gift edition) by Rabbi Earl Grollman. This classic, revised in 1995, explains what emotions to expect when mourning, what pitfalls to avoid and how to work through feelings of loss.

The Infinite Thread: Healing Relationships Beyond Loss
(Apr. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Alexandra Kennedy suggests relying on imagination, using such activities as creating a sanctuary in honor of loved ones and writing them letters to heal regrets.

I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One
(2000, $14.95 paper) by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair. The authors indicate that the standard five stages of grief may not be so neat and tidy after a horrifying air disaster or terrorist attack.

Angel Catcher: A Journal of Loss and Remembrance
(1998, $12.95) by Kathy and Amy Eldon helps prompt memories, supplying open spaces to record thoughts and to paste photographs.

Don't Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness After the Death of a Loved One
(Jan. 2001, $23.95; Feb. 2002, $13 Plume paper) by Jill Brooke shows how to turn a time of great sadness into an opportunity for positive change and growth by incorporating the memories of loved ones into daily life.

Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving
(1992; $11.95 paper) by Elizabeth Levang and Sherokee Ilse. The 1995 revised edition reminds those who grieve that healing lies in remembering the lost loved one.

Good Grief: A Constructive Approach to the Problem of Loss
(1986, $4.99 paper) by Granger Westberg. This 35th-anniversary edition examines 10 stages of grief, from shock to the affirmation of reality.

Life After Loss
(Nov. 2001, $23) by Raymond A. Moody Jr., M.D., and Dianne Arcangel argues that "grief is not an emotion but a process with a host of emotions" and that it can be transcended through rebuilding one's life.

Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief
(1999, $14 paper) by Pauline Boss covers the painful circumstance when a loved one is missing in a tragic event.

Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads
(Sept. 2001, $13.75 paper) by Neil Chethik offers a new view of the male grieving process, based on in-depth interviews.

Survivors: Stories and Strategies to Heal the Hurt
(Dec. 2001, $15.95 paper) by John Preston promises that all humans have an inherent capacity to heal from deep emotional wounds and losses.

Love Never Dies: A Mother's Journey from Loss to Love
(Mar. 2002, $17.95) by Sandy Goodman. When her son died of electrocution, Goodman discovered that the death of a loved one does not mean the end of a relationship.

Healing Conversations: What to Say When You Don't Know What to Say
(Apr. 2002, $18.95) by Nance Guilmartin proposes ways to bridge communication gaps and to make caring easier to express.

Surviving Grief: 30 Questions and Answers for a Time of Loss
(Apr. 2001, $6 paper) by Brady Reinsmith strikes a balance between acknowledging the pain that accompanies loss and offering a faith-rooted hope for recovery.

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I Can't Stop Crying: It's So Hard When Someone You Love Dies (1992, $9.95 paper) by John Martin and Frank Ferris, M.D., stresses the importance of giving oneself permission to grieve and the time in which to do it.

Handbook for Those Who Grieve: What You Should Know and What You Can Do During Times of Loss
(Feb. 2002, $11.95 paper) by Martin M. Auz and Maureen L. Andrews covers the emotional and financial implications of death along, with "do and don't" lists for families and friends of the grieving.
When the Dying Speak: How to Listen to and Learn from Those Facing Death
(Feb. 2002, $14.95 paper) by Ronald Wooten-Green reveals the unique phenomena surrounding death and opens the door to understanding a spiritual reality unknown to the living.

Midstream: An Intimate Journal of Loss and Discovery
(1996, $14.95 paper) by Le Anne Schreiber recounts her experiences following the death of her mother.

Grief's Courageous Journey
(1995, $14.95 paper) by Sandi Caplan and Gordon Lang employs a workbook approach.

I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
(Sept. 2001, $13.95 paper) by Linda Feinberg finds a path through shock, emotions and practical needs.
Living with an Empty Chair: A Guide Through Grief
(2000, $15.95) by Roberta Temes charts ways to handle the stages of grief, living alone and restructuring families.

In Lieu of Flowers: A Conversation for the Living
(2000, $19.95; Jan. 2002, $10.95 paper) by Nancy Cobb is a personal response to the death of parents and the ramifications of death in society at large.

No Time for Goodbyes: Coping with Sorrow, Anger and Injustice After a Tragic Death
(2000, $12.95 paper) by Janice Harris Lord deals with grief of family and friends of those killed violently and suddenly.

Giving a Voice to Sorrow
(Nov. 2001, $13.95 paper) by Steve Zeitlin and Ilana Harlow recommends creative approaches to grieving, such as quilts incorporating clothing of the deceased or story-writing.

The Grief Recovery Handbook
(1989, $13 paper) by John W. James and Russell Friedman. Revised in 1998, this aims to smooth the way to acceptance and healing.

The Way of Transition: Embracing Life's Most Difficult Moments
(Dec. 2001, $13 paper) by William Bridges uses the personal story of his wife's death to demonstrate how sorrow and confusion can blossom into a time of creativity and contentment.
Losing a Parent: Practical Help for You and Other Family Members
(2000, $14 paper) by Fiona Marshall considers both sudden deaths and terminal illnesses.
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life
(1999, $14 paper) by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg dispels myths and disputes rules, telling the widow to begin her new life in her own way and in her own time.

Healing After Loss
(1999, $10 paper) by Martha Whitemore Hickman presents daily meditations for working through grief.

Retelling Violent Death
(Aug. 2001, $21.95 paper) by Edward K. Rynearson encourages the mourner to remember the way the person lived, not just the violent way death came.
When a Community Weeps: Case Studies in Group Survivorship
(1998, $44.95), edited by Ellen S. Zinner and Mary Beth Williams. Each chapter covers a specific traumatic event and gives perspectives on how each affected individuals and the community at large.

Healing Grief: Reclaiming Life After Any Loss
(Apr. 2001, $12.95 paper; Dutton cloth $23.95) by James van Praagh comforts mourners.

Mourning Handbook: The Most Comprehensive Resource Offering Practical and Compassionate Advice on Coping with All Aspects of Death and Dying
(1995, $13 paper; S&S cloth $22) by Helen Fitzgerald is based on the author's experiences as a grief counselor.

Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life and Living
(Nov. 2001, $13 paper) by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler extends a practical and spiritual guide allowing people to live life to its fullest in every moment.

Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy
(Dec. 2001, $32.95) by J. William Worden. This new third edition bases an approach to bereavement on research, clinical work and new literature.

Grief, the Morning After
(1998, $70) by Catherine Sanders is a revised edition of a professional book on psychotherapy describing the grieving process and offering practical methods for assisting the bereaved.
Surviving Grief
(1997, $19.95 paper) by Catherine Sanders eases the sense of isolation and emotional chaos.

Children's Grief & Needs

Guiding Your Child Through Grief
(2000, $13.95 paper) by Mary Ann Emswiler and James P. Emswiler. The professional counselors base their advice on personal experience after raising three young children following the death of James Emswiler's first wife.

Keys to Helping Children Deal with Death and Grief
(1999, $6.95 paper) by Joy Johnson replies to a broad range of questions, including those concerning AIDS, suicide, homicide and national tragedies.

Children Who See Too Much
(Feb. 2002, $25) by Betsy McAlister Groves takes lessons from the Children Witness to Violence Project and uses the latest cognitive research to explore how very young children process violence.

Raising Resilient Children
(Mar. 2001, $22.95) by Robert Brooks and Sam Goldstein. Two child psychologists offer techniques for parents to help their offspring cope with devastating fears and other internalized obstacles.

Christopher's Summer: A Father & Son Explore the Mysteries of Life
(Oct. 2001, $20.95) by Jeffrey S. Dugan. An Episcopalian clergyman addresses his nine-year-old son's worries about dying by looking at life and God's love.

Turbulent Times, Prophetic Dreams: Art from Israeli and Palestinian Children
(2000, $18.95) by Harold Koplewicz, M.D., reproduces drawings by nine- to 14-year-olds, who depict scenes of war and disaster as well as more hopeful, peaceful circumstances.

I Promise I'll Find You
(1994; $11.95 library binding, $5.95 paper) by Heather Patricia Ward, illus. by Sheila McGraw. Eleven simple verses reassure children fearful of being separated from loved ones.

What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?
(1999, $7.95 paper) by Trevor Romaine answers kids' questions about dying.
Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Loved One: A Guide for Grownups
(1996, $14.95 paper) by William Kroen explains how children of various ages perceive death.
When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving and Healing
(1994, $9.95 paper) by Marilyn E. Gootman tells teens that their feelings of grief are normal.

When Children Grieve: For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving and Other Losses
(June 2001, $24) by John W. James et al. discusses ways to allow emotions to be expressed without judgment.

Parenting Through Crisis: Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief and Change
(2000, $24; Sept. 2001, $14 paper) by Barbara Coloroso. Time, affection and optimism are key in this process.

Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss
(1982; $12.95 paper) by Claudia Jewett Jarratt. This 1994 revision charts both short- and long-term support that adults can give to youngsters.

Help for the Hard Times: Getting Through Loss
(1995, $13.95 paper) by Earl Hipp posits that American culture does not acknowledge sufficiently how teens experience grief.

Raising Stable Kids in an Unstable World: A Physician's Guide to Preventing Childhood Stress
(Feb. 2002, $12.95 paper) by David Ryan Marks, M.D., assists parents in helping children of all ages cope with different types of stresses.

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children About Violence and Safety
(2000, $12.95 paper) by Dominic Cappello seeks to reassure children in our complex, often unexplainable world.

"I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand..." A Child's Guide to Grief and Loss
(1994, $8.95 paper) by Pat Palmer, illus. by Dianne O'Quinn Burke, aims to alleviate pain felt by the young.

Your Anxious Child: How Parents and Teachers Can Relieve Anxiety in Children
(Feb. 2002, $17.95 paper) by John S. Dacey and Lisa B. Fiore articulates a four-step program and dozens of activities to ease anxiety.
How Children Understand War and Peace: A Call for International Peace Education
(1999, $50) by Amiram Raviv et al. places the youngest generation's grasp of world conflict within a sociocultural context.
How to Talk to Teens About Really Important Things: Specific Questions and Useful Things to Say
(1999, $16 paper) and How to Talk to Your Kids... (1994, $16.50 paper) by Charles E. Schaefer attempt to widen communication channels.
See No Evil: A Guide to Protecting Our Children from Media Violence
(1998, $17.95 paper) by Madeline Levine is a revised edition addressing questions asked by parents.
Helping Your Child Cope with Depression and Suicidal Thoughts
(1997, $18.95 paper) by Tonia K. Shamoo and Philip G. Patros is updated with recent findings.

It's All Good: Daily Affirmations for Teens
(Sept. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Teresa Ann Willis says that "sometimes the best way to get through hard times is by finding out you're not alone."

Parenting a Grieving Child: Helping Children Find Faith, Hope and Healing After the Loss of a Loved One
(Feb. 2002, $12.95 paper) by Mary DeTuris Poust arises from a faith perspective and includes true stories from parents as well as counsel from doctors, therapists, funeral directors and chaplains.

It's Still a Dog's Life: A Book of Healing
(Nov. 2001, $12) by Susan Roth. Two dogs respond to the World Trade Center tragedy in this book for children ages 5-11.

I Am So Angry, I Could Scream: Helping Children Deal with Anger
(2000, $12.95 paper) by Laura Fox, illus. by Chris Sabatino, educates children about techniques for releasing anger in healthy ways.
The Empty Place: A Child's Guide Through Grief
(1992, $8.95 paper) by Roberta Temes, illus. by Kim Carlisle, has lessons for facing the finality of death.

How Do We Tell the Children? A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope When Someone Dies
(Dec. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Dan Schaefer and Christine Lyons is a third edition expanded with new material to help adults as well as children deal with traumatic events.

Terrorism and Kids: Comforting Your Child
(Sept. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Fern Reiss addresses such questions as: Will any bombs fall on us? Are there any terrorists here?

Talking with Children About Loss: Words, Strategies and Wisdom to Help Children Cope with Death, Divorce and Other Difficult Times
(1999, $13.50 paper) by Maria Trozzi and Kathy Massimini discusses how children perceive and interpret these events and how they can be helped through mourning.

The Secure Child: Helping Children Feel Safe and Confident
(May 2002, $20) by Stanley Greenspan, M.D., devises principles to help parents reassure children of all ages, making them feel safe in their homes, schools and communities.
Touchpoints Three to Six: Your Child's Emotional and Behavioral Development
(Sept. 2001, $27) by T. Berry Brazelton, M.D., and Joshua D. Sparrow, M.D., devotes sections to sadness and depression, loss and grief, even night-time fears.

Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Toddlers and Teens--and All the Years In-Between
(July 2001, $12 paper) by Kenneth Shore encourages adults to empower their children to protect themselves.
How to Say It to Your Kids
(2000, $14 paper) by Paul Coleman eases the burden of beleaguered parents by enabling them to communicate thoughtfully.

Life & Loss: A Guide to Helping Grieving Children
(2000, $24.95 paper) by Linda Goldman. The second edition adds a large number of new resources and Web sites.
Children and Disasters
(1999, $36.95) by Norma S. Gordon and Norman L. Faberow. The programs here are meant to provide early intervention in psychological problems.

Grieving Child: A Parent's Guide
(1992, $12 paper) by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross covers such difficult topics as murder and suicide.

130 Questions Children Ask About War and Terrorism
(Apr. 2002, $6.99 paper) by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop aims to turn children's fears into opportunities for healing and growth.

The Gentle Art of Communicating with Kids
(1996, $14.95 paper) by Suzette Haden Elgin is by the author of the bestselling Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense.

Recovery & Self-Help

Promises to KeepProfoundly troubled by losing an uncle in the September 11 crash at the Pentagon, a little girl at Elmwood Elementary School in Elmwood, Ill., brought in to her third-grade teacher a book in which she had found strength, a book to read aloud to the class. I Promise I'll Find You (Firefly, 1994; $11.95 library binding, $5.95 paper) by Heather Patricia Wood considers loss and being lost from a child's perspective, and a movement was put in motion as the school began raising money. "It was the school's intention to purchase as many copies of this book as it could and send them to children in the disaster areas. After two weeks of school and community donations, over $2,500 was collected," reports Elmwood Elementary principal Tony Frost. The school approached both Firefly, which donated 30 books, and Barnes & Noble, which donated 60, and with the funds raised, a total of 500 books were earmarked for Leckie Elementary School in Washington, D.C., which had lost one student, one teacher and another staff member in the airline crashes. Valerie Hatton, Firefly publicity manager, reported that last month an assembly was held at the Elmwood school, at which all the children signed all the books prior to sending them off. Frost adds, "This program, 'Hugs from the Heartland,' symbolizes how smalltown America in central Illinois can pull together in this time of need."

A Cup of Comfort: Stories That Warm Your Heart, Lift Your Spirit and Enrich Your Life (Oct. 2001, $9.95 paper), edited by Colleen Sell, contains 50 "feel-good" stories, such as an account of a nurse who aids an elderly couple and discovers that the woman is her long-lost mother.

Forgiveness Is a Choice
(Sept. 2001, $19.95) by Robert D. Enright contains the stories of men and women for whom forgiveness has worked as a healing instrument.

To Begin Again: The Journey Toward Comfort, Strength and Faith in Difficult Times
(1999, $12.95 paper) by Naomi Levy. Rabbi Levy maintains that "each of us possesses the power to overcome the unthinkable."

The Healing Labyrinth: Finding Your Path to Inner Peace
(Feb. 2001, $16.95) by Helen Raphael Sands reports that major labyrinth sites are now located in 38 states.

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
(1997, $15 paper) by Judith Herman, M.D. A new introduction has been added to the book (first published in 1992) identifying parallels between private terrors such as rape and public traumas such as terrorism.

Fight Your Fear and Win: Seven Skills for Performing Your Best Under Pressure--At Work, in Sports, on Stage
(Mar. 2001, $23.95) by Don Greene. Emphasizing determination, courage and resilience, Greene has counseled September 11 survivors at Merrill Lynch and Cantor Fitzgerald.
Take Time for Your Life
(2000, $13 paper) by Cheryl Richardson. Self-care is important, and so is a reassessment of priorities.

Guide to Stress Reduction
(July 2001, $12.95 paper) by L. John Mason promotes the use of visualization, meditation, biofeedback and other techniques to lessen stress and anxiety.

Life Without Limits: Clarify What You Want, Redefine Your Dreams, Become the Person You Want to Be
(Jan. 2001, $24; Jan. 2002, $12.95 paper) by Lucinda Bassett maps the way to triumph over fear and eliminate worry.

After the Darkest Hour: How Suffering Begins the Journey to Wisdom
(Sept. 2001, $14 paper) by Kathleen Brehony encourages even those in pain to find the way to live joyfully.

Depression Is a Choice: Winning the Battle Without Drugs
(Oct. 2001, $23.95) by A.B. Curtiss takes a philosophical, psychological and personal point of view.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women: Simple and Practical Ways to Do What Matters Most and Find Time for You
(Apr. 2001, $11.95 paper) by Kristine Carlson and Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Men: Simple Ways to Minimize Stress in a Competitive World (Sept. 2001, $11.95 paper) by Richard Carlson are the latest entries in the extensive series that began with Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and It's All Small Stuff (1997; $19.95, paper $11.95).
Necessary Journeys: Letting Ourselves Learn from Life
(Apr. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., and Peg Streep asserts that every experience can be an occasion for emotional and spiritual growth.

Master Your Panic and Take Back Your Life! Twelve Treatment Sessions to Overcome High Anxiety
(1998, $15.95 paper) by Denise F. Beckfield. This second edition includes strategies for "instant panic relief."

The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All
(1995, $10 paper) by Cheri Huber maintains that we should not repress our fears, but confront them head-on.

Living a Life That Matters
(Sept. 2001, $22) by Harold Kushner looks for the true meaning of life.

Fear Less: Real Truth About Risk, Safety and Security in a Time of Terrorism
(Jan. 2002, $19.95) by Gavin de Becker implements ways to assess risk, understand violence and reduce fears.

10 Ways to Manage Your Fears in Uncertain Times: How to Live Fully and Panic-Free in the Face of Anxiety and Stress
(June 2002, $12.95 paper) by Harriet Braiker is based on research into how people have used stress to improve performance.
Beating Depression
(May 2002, $16.95 paper) by Maga Jackson-Triche, M.D., et al. looks into the latest available treatments.
The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook: A Guide to Healing, Recovery and Growth
(2000, $18.95 paper) by Glenn R. Schiraldi discusses coping mechanisms, emotional triggers and mental defenses.

:60 Second Anger Management
(May 2002, $14.95 paper) by Michael Hershorn, ...Sleep-Ease (Feb. 2001, $13.95 paper) by Shawn Currie and Keith Wilson, ...Mind/ Body Rejuvenation (2000, $14.95 paper) by Curtis Turchin and ...Stress Management (1992, $14.95 paper) by Andrew Goliszek are all in the :60 Second series

Stress Relief: Dealing with Disasters Great and Small: What to Expect and What to Do from Day One to Year One and Beyond
(Jan. 2002, $12.95 paper) by Georgia Witkin details how to manage major catastrophes and personal traumas.

Living with Anxiety: A Clinically Proven Step-by-Step Plan for Drug-Free Management
(Aug. 2001, $16 paper) by Bob Montgomery and Laurel Morris enables the reader to overcome the symptoms associated with anxiety attacks.
Post-Trauma Stress: Reduce Long-Term Effects and Hidden Emotional Damage Caused by Violence and Disaster
(2000, $14 paper) by Frank Parkinson is a two-pronged approach to prevention and recovery.
Surviving: Coping with a Life Crisis
(2000, $14 paper) by Bob Montgomery and Laurel Morris is aimed at crisis survivors, their friends, relatives or helpers.

Escape Routes: For People Who Feel Trapped in Life's Hells
(Feb. 2002, $10 paper) by Johann Christoph Arnold asks us to take a fresh look at what we really value in life.
Be Not Afraid: Overcoming the Fear of Death
(Jan. 2002, $12 paper) by Johann Christoph Arnold is designed to help the reader find peace in troubled times.

Help Yourself: Finding Hope, Courage and Happiness
(Sept. 2001, $11 paper; Dutton cloth $21.95) by Dave Pelzer teaches how to leave the painful past behind.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
(1992, $6.95 paper) by Melba Colgrove et al. is a revised edition of a perennial title.

Unconditional Bliss: Finding Happiness in the Face of Hardship
(2000, $15.95 paper) by Howard Raphael Cushnir unravels our reactions to stressful, unnerving situations and teaches how to accept those things that cannot be changed.

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
(Sept. 2001, $11.95 paper; Avon paper $6.99) by Harold S. Kushner is a reissue of the classic bestseller.

Answers to Satisfy the Soul: Clear Concise Answers to 20 of Life's Most Perplexing Questions
(Aug. 2001, $12.95 paper) by Jim Denney satisfies such questions as: Do I always have to forgive? Why is there evil in the world?

Heart and Sound: Discover Your Soul Voice: Chants, Prayers and Affirmations
(Oct. 2001, $19.95 paper with CD) by Carole Lynne helps vocalize wishes for consolation and guidance.
About Peace: 108 Ways to Be at Peace When Things Are Out of Control
(Sept. 2001, $12.95 paper) by Scott Shaw offers Zen meditations for modern times.

The Anti-Terror Checklist
(Nov. 2001, $5.99 paper) by Bill Stanton tells how to prepare for the unthinkable.
How Long Till My Soul Gets It Right? 100 Doorways on the Journey to Happiness
(May 2001, $14 paper) by Robert M. Alter and Jane Alter is also available as a $25 hardcover entitled The Transformative Power of Crisis: Our Journey to Psychological Healing and Spiritual Awakening.

Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
(Sept. 2001, $23.95) by Thich Nhat Hanh advocates an awareness of interdependence as a means to ease personal suffering.
Freeing the Soul from Fear
(Jan. 2001, $13 paper) by Robert Sardello equips readers with a solution to the destructive forces of fear.

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
(Sept 2001, $21) by Harold S. Kushner is a 20th-anniversary edition, with a new preface by the author.

The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times
(Aug. 2001, $21.95) by Pema Chodron. The American Tibetan Buddhist nun asserts, "The essence of bravery is being without self-deception."
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
(1997, $20) by Pema Chodron tells how to face fear by letting go.

Self-Coaching: How to Heal Anxiety and Depression
(Apr. 2001, $14.95 paper) by Joseph J. Luciani reveals what can be accomplished without having to go to a therapist.
The Anxiety Cure: An Eight-Step Program for Getting Well
(1998, $15.95 paper) by Robert L. DuPont et al. conveys its advice in a popular, reassuring tone.

Spiritual Solace

Transforming Our Terror: A Spiritual Approach to Making Sense of Senseless Tragedy
(Mar. 2002, $9.95 paper) by Christopher Titmuss. Meditation is among the techniques used to transcend tragic events and to renew life with fresh priorities.

Poems to Live by in Uncertain Times
(Dec. 2001, paper $12), edited by Joan Murray, contains 61 works by an international array of poets, plus one, "Survivor--Found," by Murray herself, written immediately after the terrorist attacks.

Cultivating Compassion: A Buddhist Perspective
(Apr. 2001, $19.95) by Jeffrey Hopkins reflects on the awareness of death, facing horror and other obstacles to serenity.

Go Within or Go Without: A Hands-On Guide to Healing Body, Mind and Spirit
(Sept. 2001, $12.95 paper) by Gloria Benish. By opening up and letting God work through them, caregivers can accomplish much with the proper hand positions for healing.

Religion That Harms, Religion That Heals: Celebrating the Power of the Human Spirit
(Feb. 2002, $27.95) by Celia M. Murray Dunn promotes compassion and personal honesty.

Beauty for Ashes: Spiritual Reflections on the Attack on America
(Dec. 2001, $15.95 paper), edited by John Farina, reprints the thoughts of Mayor Rudolph Giuliani, Queen Elizabeth II, Muhammad Ali, and many others in response to September 11.
Violence Unveiled: Humanity at the Crossroads
(1995, $24.95 paper) by Gil Bailie highlights American compassion for victims of catastrophic events.

Angels and Dragons
(Oct. 2001, $19.95) by Molly Wolf. Along with advice on overcoming post-traumatic stress disorder, Wolf suggests that lessons learned from the Oklahoma City bombing can help people cope with the events of September 11.

There's A Spiritual Solution to Every Problem
(Sept. 2001, $24) by Wayne W. Dyer tells how to unplug from the material world and access an innate spiritual force.

"Martha, Martha": How Christians Worry
(2000, $14.95 paper) by Elaine Leong Eng, M.D., is a mental-health education work for Christians, covering such subjects as panic disorder and post-traumatic stress.

Where Was God on September 11? Seeds of Faith and Hope
(Jan. 2002, $10.99 paper), ed. by Donald B. Kraybill and Linda Gehman Peachey, collects essays, articles, sermons and letters to find meaning in the midst of terror.

Spiritual Rx: Prescriptions for Living a Meaningful Life
(Aug. 2001, $14 paper) by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat consists, say the authors, "of remedies, wisdom and recommended activities for all those taking up the spiritual life."

Mourning & Mitzvah: A Guided Journal for Walking the Mourner's Path Through Grief
(1993, $19.95 paper) by Anne Brener. Traditions and philosophy facilitate the processes of both conscious and unconscious healing.

In Times of Crisis and Sorrow: A Minister's Manual Resource Guide
(Sept. 2001, $24.95) by Carol M. Noren presents sermons, hymn suggestions and a compendium of resources for grief counselors, clergy and lay preachers.
Pilgrim Heart: The Inner Journey Home
(Apr. 2001, $18.95) by Sarah York explores how the concept of "home" can lead to a sense of peace.
Remembering Well: Rituals for Celebrating Life and Mourning Death
(2000, $20) by Sarah York provides step-by-step guidelines for planning funeral, memorial and committal services that honor the deceased.

Comfort for the Grieving Heart
(June 2002, $11.95 paper) by Margolyn Woods and Maureen D. MacLellan is a treasury of short stories, essays, poems and scriptures covering a wide range of events, including those of September 11.
Facing Fear with Faith
(Mar. 2002, $12.95 paper) by Arthur Jones and Dolores Leckey identifies how faith can lead to succor through prayer, sacred writings, quiet calm and life beyond death.

When Suffering Persists
(Nov. 2001, $12.95 paper) by Fredrick W. Schmidt Jr., eschews pat responses to enlist a theology that takes seriously the devastating character of emotional pain.

Letting Go of Worry and Anxiety
and ...of Disappointment and Painful Losses (Nov. 2001, $9.99 paper each) by Pam Vredevelt advocate living in the moment and trusting in God.

Trust & Tragedy: Encountering God in Times of Crisis
(Dec. 2001, $6.99 paper) by Tommy Tenney pledges that God always comforts the broken-hearted.
When Tragedy Strikes
(Dec. 2001, $9.99) by Charles Stanley finds answers to horror and dismay within the Bible.
How to Live Through a Bad Day
(Sept. 2001, $9.99) by Jack Hayford constructs a model for godly behavior while enduring hardships.

From the Ashes: A Spiritual Response to the Attack on America: Experience, Strength and Hope from Spiritual Leaders and Extraordinary Citizens
(Oct., $19.95), collected by the editors of Beliefnet, includes the comforting thoughts of Desmond Tutu, Billy Graham, Kathleen Norris and Neale Donald Walsch.

Making Sense Out of Sorrow: A Journey of Faith
(1995, $8 paper) by Foster R. McCurley and Alan G. Weitzman speaks to those whose world seems to be falling apart.

Finding God's Peace in Perilous Times
(Dec. 2001, $10.99 with CD) includes devotional writings by Chuck Colson, Max Lucado and many others.
When God Doesn't Make Sense
(1994; Dec. 2001, $6.99 mass market paper) by James Dobson seeks to bring hope to those who feel abandoned by God.

When the World Breaks Your Heart: Spiritual Ways of Living with Tragedy
(1999, $10 paper) by Gregory S. Clapper is by a chaplain who helped rescue survivors from a 1989 airplane crash.

Restoring Faith: America's Religious Leaders Answer Terror with Hope
(Nov. 2001, $10 paper), ed. by Forrest Church, assembles 25 sermons and other addresses by ministers, priests, imams and rabbis that were given after September 11.

God Be with Us: A Daily Guide to Praying for Our Nation
(Nov. 2001, $11.95) by Quin Sherrer and Ruthanne Garlock is dedicated to the thousands of all nationalities who perished in the terrorist attacks.

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss
(1998, $9.99 paper) by Gerald Sittser treats death as an opportunity to grow in depth.
Where Is God When It Hurts?
(1977, $12.99 paper; Sept. 2001, special trade paper edition $6.99) by Philip Yancey reassures those for whom life sometimes just doesn't make sense.

Heroes & Patriotism

A Tradition ContinuesThe Windows on the World restaurant at the top of the World Trade Center and its employees and guests were among the more conspicuous losses of September 11. Long a favorite with both tourists and knowledgeable wine connoisseurs, the restaurant was like family to those in the food industry. After the terrorist attacks, many members of the restaurant world throughout the country held generous fund-raising events, and Sterling is now adding its own contribution to the Windows of Hope Family Relief Fund established by restaurant owner David Emil and Chef Michael Lomonaco. Kevin Zraly, who founded the Windows on the World Wine School in 1976, has published his wine course book with Sterling since its first edition 16 years ago, and cumulative sales are well over one million copies. Publication date for Windows on the World Complete Wine Course: 2002 Edition, was October, just a month after the disaster. Honoring the past, Zraly will continue the course under the same name, and Sterling will continue to publish the title. Charles Nurnberg, Sterling executive v-p, says, "Sterling has had a relationship with the Windows on the World family and Kevin Zraly since 1985, and we are devastated by the losses they have sustained. We hope in some way that this donation will help the families of the victims during this difficult time."

(dist. by Sterling)
Brotherhood (Dec. 2001, $29.95). Photos accompanied by text by Frank McCourt, Mayor Rudolph Giuliani and Thomas Van Essen, commissioner of NYC's fire department, are all part of a testament to the city's firefighters and their valiant deeds after the World Trade Center attack.

Proud to Be an American
(Nov. 2001, $14.95 paper) is a photographic paean to patriotism.

(dist. by Ten Speed Press)
United We Stand! A Visual Journey of Wartime Patriotism (Mar. 2002, $16.95) by Richard J. Perry. With images of Uncle Sam, the American flag and other morale-boosters, this collection of inspirational graphics celebrates the ways in which Americans come together in times of crisis.

At Freedom's Table
(Sept. 2001, $22.95) by Carolyn Quick Tillery. In this cookbook, recipes, anecdotal stories and vintage photos trace the vital contributions of military wives.

Firefighters 2002
(May 2001, $12.95) is a calendar paying tribute to the soot-coated warriors who face great risks as they conquer fires in cities and forests.
I Want to Be a Firefighter
(1999, $14.95 library binding, $3.99 paper) teaches children what these women and men do while on their perilous job.

Chicken Soup for the Soul of America: Stories to Heal the Heart of Our Nation
(Jan. 2002; $24, paper $12.95) by Jack Canfield et al. The publisher says that here, "everyday heroes are celebrated. Heroes have always been in our midst, but the recent terrorist attacks on American soil have revealed many more heroes who have given their lives, love, time and strength to those in great need."

America Out of the Ashes: True Stories of Courage and Heroism
(Nov. 2001, $16.99) by Honor Books offers heroic and survival stories from New York City, Washington, D.C., and Pennsylvania, along with prayers and restorative scripture.

Star-Spangled Banner: Our Nation and Its Flag
(Nov. 2001, $24) by Margaret Sedeen celebrates the flag and all it represents, including its emotional unfurling after September 11.

In the Line of Duty: Ground Zero: September 11, 2001
(Nov. 2001, $18 paper), foreword by Bernard B. Kerik, police commissioner of New York City, photos by John Botte, is a volume of black-and-white pictures documenting the heroic efforts of men and women from the New York City. Police Department during rescue and recovery efforts.

America's Heroes: Inspiring Stories of Courage, Sacrifice and Patriotism
(Nov. 2001, $29.95) limns the some of the many courageous people, from firefighters to civilian workers, who helped hold the country together in the aftermath of September 11.

Let Freedom Ring: The Words That Shaped Our America
(Mar. 2002, $24.95) includes speeches by Thomas Paine, Martin Luther King Jr. and George W. Bush.

Long May She Wave: A Graphic History of the American Flag
(May 2001, $60) by Kit Hinrichs and Delphine Hirasuna offers more than 500 illustrations portraying Old Glory in all of its manifestations.